Choices...

[Deathscythealpha]

I was walking back from the shops yesterday when suddenly there was all this shouting. Some guy was having a tiff with his now ex girlfriend, and he sounded like he was getting very violent. He was damanding that she came right back to him, that if she left she would kill her and other general abuse. Alot of people were stopping and turning around. What did i do? I walked on.

It sounds almost cowardly of me, to leave something like that to happen. For all i know that guy could of ended up hitting his girlfriend or attacking her, or maybe even carrying out his detah threat. But if i stepped in and said calm down, somehting bad could of happened to me, i could have been the one getting attacked. Its sad that we live in a world were this sort of thing happens, and that people have to make stupid choices that can leave them feeling guilty in the end.

I hope something bad didnt happen to that woman.

[Kizaragu]

Simply put, you were best left out of it.
If you'd of intefered the situation probably would of got worse and you'd be making this topic with a black eye and the other guy in a cell.
The thing with the world today is everyone loves to over react and make a scene. (Quite often you can hear screaming and yelling in the house behind me. it happens regularly.)
It's just the way it is...

I doubt anything bad could of happened. Like you said, several people noticed the argument so I doubt the guy would of done anything too drastic with everyone watching him.
But to be honest, you never know. :0/

Just don't worry about it, put it in the back of your mind then get on with life.
Things like this happen all the time and you were just unfortunate to witness it.
Theres not alot you could and can of done.



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[Bradicus]

The fact of the matter is that you would have made things worse by interfering. If the bastard was really going to hit her for arguing with him, what would he have done if some guy stopped him/subdued him? He would have just exorcised his wounded pride by wounding the woman. I am sure it could have been handled by someone used to breaking domestic disputes up. And besides, you dont even know the depth of their relationship.

I dont know if i would have done the same thing, but in my oppinion, there is nothing wrong with what you did.

[Scejntjynahl]

Sometimes not getting involved is the best option. Like the prince of prance said, we dont know the depth of the relationship. We don't know if the girl is codependent, we dont know if the guy is lashing out because of some traumatic early lifehood experience. We don't know, period. Your action was the only possible one at the moment.

The same thing happened to me when in high school. Jockey X beating up on Girlfriend Y, in the quad area during lunch time. No teachers around, go figure. Everyone just staring doing nothing, some even laughing. So...I interfered...hit the Jockey X in the back of his head with my backpack (with a big fat math book) and down he goes. Over right? I thought so...but no. Girlfriend Y start slapping me and cursing because i hit her boyfriend?! And then...only then do the dumb ass teachers show up. And into detention I go.

So yeah, dont get involved. Best to do if it is extremely violent would be to call security, police, take down license number gather witnesses, or the infamous video camera. Otherwise, dont risk it.