anwserman
Mar 4, 2004, 02:34 PM
Whoa, yes I'm talking about MITCH NOW.
Because, it has dawned on me, that he has been avoiding me for the last week for unknown reason... well, unknown to a point. I have a hunch why he's avoiding me right now, with damn good reason to do do.
His drinking.
Tomorrow is the last day before spring break, and he's going down to Green Bay and he's going to party it up... and he doesn't want to give me the opportunity to bring it up beforehand. I'm getting this from the reaction I gave him on Monday when he told me what he did the week before (his classes were cancelled the whole week essentially so he went down home), and he boozed it up. Five out of the six nights he was gone, he was smashed. He even admitted that he doesn't remember doing much that week except for drinking.
Now, now before anyone pounces on me about this thread, I want to make myself clear: It does not include me being gay at all, and it doesn't involve any hatred towards drinking. I think that it should be done in moderation, that there is a time and a place for it. He's 21, and he is *by law* old enough to drink. I'm not arguing that fact at all... good for him, but it is a bit much. And here are the reasons why I'm ranting about this.
1. He's 21 and a freshman in college (he screwed up two years in college.)
2. He owes his parents a sum of cash.
3. He's injured and cannot work.
4. His friends are fuck-ups.
5. He has gotten into situations before with alcohol... almost deadly ones.
And the big deal about this is that, we've had conversations about this before, drinking. We've had conversations about it. He's admitted that he needs to stop drinking in such excess, that I am really smart for not drinking (I would, never get offered to do so... but I would drink in moderation) and that his friends are fuck-ups. He didn't say that in those words, but it is the truth. They all lose their jobs, some don't attend college, some have kids already AND their main concern is about getting sloshed with Mitch whenever he goes down home. Is it my concern? Nope. But as a friend, I feel obligated to bring this shit up before something happens. And why do I feel this way? Because I am the only person who will bring it up to him, and he knows it. I honestly believe thats why he is avoiding me before spring break. I have damn good reason to bring it up, too... because he has admitted his problems to me and to nobody else, and nobody else will bring up those problems because they're unknown to them.
So, for those situations, there are two I know of right now. First one happened about a year or two ago, at Noah's Ark in Wisconsin. First and foremost, Mitch and his friends were underage. They drove down there, drinking in the vehicle. They were openly buzzed/drunk at Noah's Ark. Mitch went into the wavepool and almost drowned. Happy thoughts... happy thoughts. I wasn't there, I don't know what exactly happened but he almost died. That in itself is something to be concerned about. You might be able to right it off as "something stupid that he did a couple years back", but the thing is he is still friends with those people that he went down with and they get drunk. And something along those lines is bound to happen again, not necessairly to him but to someone in his group of friends.
The second one is less serious (aka NOT* deadly), but at Christmas time he was at a bar with his family, where they could get all-you-could-drink beer for $6. Buy the pitcher, you get all the beer you want in it. So, he drank. And drank. And drank. And drank to the point where he spewed in the bathroom, causing a mess. And then he drank some more. Now, before you nail me on this one... I do know that it was Christmastime, a holiday. Holidays, you do party. And that relative, he rarely sees so of course he wants to have fun. But, he drank to where his body couldn't phyiscally handle it anymore... he drank until he vomitted, and drank some more dammit.
Throw in the factor that these are the stories I do know, and that there are several more stories I don't know of and I have a reason to be concerned. Throw in the fact that he just admitted that he was drunk 5 out of the 6 days he was gone, and you see why I'm ranting this way. He has a problem, he knows I know he has a problem, and he's avoiding me right now. He has a problem with self-control, that is aggrivated by his friends and his family. How do I bring it up? I don't know. It fucking sucks since his priorities lie in Green Bay. It doesn't matter what I say, since it he'll probably just forget about it when he's with his friends. Yet, I still feel burdened to talk to him, because if something happens and I didn't make the effort to talk with him, I'll feel guilty. At the same time, if I do talk, I might fuck up the friendship we have. Its a freakin' lose-lose situation as I see it.
Well, this is all I have to say right now.
Peace out.
*Edit.
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Because, it has dawned on me, that he has been avoiding me for the last week for unknown reason... well, unknown to a point. I have a hunch why he's avoiding me right now, with damn good reason to do do.
His drinking.
Tomorrow is the last day before spring break, and he's going down to Green Bay and he's going to party it up... and he doesn't want to give me the opportunity to bring it up beforehand. I'm getting this from the reaction I gave him on Monday when he told me what he did the week before (his classes were cancelled the whole week essentially so he went down home), and he boozed it up. Five out of the six nights he was gone, he was smashed. He even admitted that he doesn't remember doing much that week except for drinking.
Now, now before anyone pounces on me about this thread, I want to make myself clear: It does not include me being gay at all, and it doesn't involve any hatred towards drinking. I think that it should be done in moderation, that there is a time and a place for it. He's 21, and he is *by law* old enough to drink. I'm not arguing that fact at all... good for him, but it is a bit much. And here are the reasons why I'm ranting about this.
1. He's 21 and a freshman in college (he screwed up two years in college.)
2. He owes his parents a sum of cash.
3. He's injured and cannot work.
4. His friends are fuck-ups.
5. He has gotten into situations before with alcohol... almost deadly ones.
And the big deal about this is that, we've had conversations about this before, drinking. We've had conversations about it. He's admitted that he needs to stop drinking in such excess, that I am really smart for not drinking (I would, never get offered to do so... but I would drink in moderation) and that his friends are fuck-ups. He didn't say that in those words, but it is the truth. They all lose their jobs, some don't attend college, some have kids already AND their main concern is about getting sloshed with Mitch whenever he goes down home. Is it my concern? Nope. But as a friend, I feel obligated to bring this shit up before something happens. And why do I feel this way? Because I am the only person who will bring it up to him, and he knows it. I honestly believe thats why he is avoiding me before spring break. I have damn good reason to bring it up, too... because he has admitted his problems to me and to nobody else, and nobody else will bring up those problems because they're unknown to them.
So, for those situations, there are two I know of right now. First one happened about a year or two ago, at Noah's Ark in Wisconsin. First and foremost, Mitch and his friends were underage. They drove down there, drinking in the vehicle. They were openly buzzed/drunk at Noah's Ark. Mitch went into the wavepool and almost drowned. Happy thoughts... happy thoughts. I wasn't there, I don't know what exactly happened but he almost died. That in itself is something to be concerned about. You might be able to right it off as "something stupid that he did a couple years back", but the thing is he is still friends with those people that he went down with and they get drunk. And something along those lines is bound to happen again, not necessairly to him but to someone in his group of friends.
The second one is less serious (aka NOT* deadly), but at Christmas time he was at a bar with his family, where they could get all-you-could-drink beer for $6. Buy the pitcher, you get all the beer you want in it. So, he drank. And drank. And drank. And drank to the point where he spewed in the bathroom, causing a mess. And then he drank some more. Now, before you nail me on this one... I do know that it was Christmastime, a holiday. Holidays, you do party. And that relative, he rarely sees so of course he wants to have fun. But, he drank to where his body couldn't phyiscally handle it anymore... he drank until he vomitted, and drank some more dammit.
Throw in the factor that these are the stories I do know, and that there are several more stories I don't know of and I have a reason to be concerned. Throw in the fact that he just admitted that he was drunk 5 out of the 6 days he was gone, and you see why I'm ranting this way. He has a problem, he knows I know he has a problem, and he's avoiding me right now. He has a problem with self-control, that is aggrivated by his friends and his family. How do I bring it up? I don't know. It fucking sucks since his priorities lie in Green Bay. It doesn't matter what I say, since it he'll probably just forget about it when he's with his friends. Yet, I still feel burdened to talk to him, because if something happens and I didn't make the effort to talk with him, I'll feel guilty. At the same time, if I do talk, I might fuck up the friendship we have. Its a freakin' lose-lose situation as I see it.
Well, this is all I have to say right now.
Peace out.
*Edit.
<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: anwserman on 2004-03-04 13:38 ]</font>