Did I Do Something Wrong? ;_;

[PJ]

I really don't know how to explain my problem well, but here goes...

I have this friend who I've come to know pretty well over the last year.

Well, I've only known her this year.

And even then, I only met her online, I've never actually seen her (Well, I mean, I've seen her picture but... *ahem*)

ANYWAYS

Lately, it seems like she's annoyed with me, but whenever I asked if she's annoyed with me, she always says either, "No," or, "It's not your fault." But it just really seems weird.

Our conversations really used to mean something, but now it's just a random stream between nothingness, and... well, really randomness in general. Like today it was about Star Wars Galaxies.

I don't know what to do ;_;

I guess she could have a lot on her mind, but that's never stopped her before. She always seemed to have the time to say something, no matter what was bothering her.

It just seems so... different.

And of course her birthday is really soon, and I wanted to do something for her, but I can't cause I live so far away.

I know my problem is very juvenille, but I just wanted to rant. @_@

[Allos]

But you've never seen her........hmmmm....

[Cowboy]

A word of advice..

Don't ask her what the matter is unless you are prepared for whatever it is... I've learned this in real life, so I can only imagine how someone would be online.

[Muzzaro]

Ooh Online relationships. Been there, done that =P

Hmm. You *can* do something for her birthday. Distance doesn't matter, you can still send her a card, write her a letter, or a poem, maybe slide in a photo of you too. It's cheap to do, and it would mean alot to her, if you is what's on her mind.

Something is bothering her, and by saying "it's not your fault" she's trying somewhat to let you know. You just have to push for it... If she didn't want you to know something was wrong, she wouldn't ever let on. This is the internet, not a face to face conversation. You can hide alot over a chat program.

And, don't dismiss the randomness. I dated someone online for two years, and after that, randomness was what kept it alive.

My advice then is:

-> Buy her a card for her birthday, write her a poem, stick a letter and a pic of you in there too. Material objects, and hand-written poems always help.
-> Next time she says "not your fault", then tell her it might not be your fault, but it is something that worrys you, because you hate the thought of her being upset/down/sad. Push it, if you can.
-> When you push it, and she tells you, do NOT freak. Golden rule there, and I can tell you it's one I learnt. All problems are overcome through time and effort, so just be an ear for her.

Hope that helps...

[PJ]

1) I have sent her my pic too, I'm not so bad ^_-

2) We aren't dating or anything! She's just a good friend of mine.

Hmm... a card? Doesn't that require money? ^_-

I guess I'll try asking about it next tiem I talk to her.

[Dangerous55]

On 2004-03-25 18:47, SUPAH_CHAO wrote:


2) We aren't dating or anything! She's just a good friend of mine.





Of course you're not, you never met her.



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[decswxaqz]

Poor Supah http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_frown.gif

Yeah. As someone said. Send her a card. Maybe buy something small and put it in with the card. I'm sure you can send something. Even a small item sent a long way can mean a lot since you've gone to a lot of trouble..... (including standing in the ever long Post Office line =/ -.-).

I've got a few good, online friends that I send gifts too.

[Ness]

I don't think you did anything wrong, Supah. Like she said, "It's not your fault."

[Armok]

Women have strange moods.

Either they are overly friendly or spend the whole time ignoring you.

All depends on weird things like weather you said good morning to someone before them or didnt laugh at their joke.

[decswxaqz]

On 2004-03-26 06:10, Armok wrote:
Women have strange moods.

Either they are overly friendly or spend the whole time ignoring you.


You are just asking for a beating there...... or a cuddle.....depends on the mood jk ^_^;

EDIT: Probably a beating http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_razz.gif

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[LollipopLolita]

On 2004-03-26 07:13, decswxaqz wrote:
You are just asking for a beating there...... or a cuddle.....depends on the mood jk ^_^;

EDIT: Probably a beating http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_razz.gif



heh decs, we can both join up and beat him. you can beat him because you're frustrated that he doesn't understand that guys can be moody too and i can beat him because i am frustrated since he said women are moody and was stereotypical. either way, whatever reason it is, we might have some fun out of it.

[decswxaqz]

Guys can be moody????! You are so mean!!!
*runs away and cries*

topic....topic.... erm..... something to say on topic.........

Yes Supah. You probably haven't done anything wrong in your eyes, but in your (:P girl)friends eyes, you might have. Just try and relive some of the things you did/said and see if there is anything she might have taken the wrong way.
I know when people say things like that to me, it's usually nothing bad at all. And it's just a misunderstanding. Pop on MSN and we can talk http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wink.gif http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_smile.gif.

[LollipopLolita]

don't run, we were supposed to beat that guy up. gah men, always crying instead of bottling up emotions and taking it out on someone else violently. psssshhhh.

supah i don't know sometimes poeple just drift away and each person has their own paths in live. maybe talk to her, really talk to her. express your concern? ask her how you can help and if you did something wrong.

[Daikarin]

gah men, always crying instead of bottling up emotions and taking it out on someone else violently.


Yes, we should be tough, like women. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

SC, what can you do with a relationship that's lost some of his burn, other than keep talking to her? If something is wrong, talk with her about it, don't beat around the bush and keep your thoughts to yourself. Chat about it and give a good use to the internet http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_smile.gif

*Runs away from feminists on PSOW*

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[geewj]

*Runs away from feminists on PSOW*



Watch out for Rune...


Back on topic...

In some situations it's easier to be open about things online and in others it is a lot harder. This just might be one of those things someomeone would have to help her with in person.

[PJ]

Thanks for the help everyone.

Of course, she hasn't been online today, and I can't expect to speak to her on the weekend, so it'll have to wait till Monday =/

[SJ]

I wouldn't ask whats wrong....
Been there and asled a girl in my class what was wrong and she expained that her dad had died http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_frown.gif
I made the whole thing worse....

[Armok]

Sorry about the antifeminist comments but at the time of posting I was pissed off a particular bitch I know.