Ok whats going on here

[Armok]

My friend Gary has had an obcession about this girl all year. The story goes like this. He used to live with her in halls last year and was good friends with her.

This year however he has become totally obcessed and everytime he gets drunk on a night out with us starts going on about how much he loves her and how amazing she is and how great it is when the are together (bear in mind he has never been out or done anything with her). So far this year he has told her he loves her twice to get the same answer of 'your a great friend etc'.

She has also made him escort her and her friend to Morocco on a easter trip costing him like his entire student loan (shes rich and needed a male escort to take the trip). She also constantly treats him like a slave making him get her cigs and wine and such. Personally we all think he should get out as soon as possible but he just won't give up. Anyone been in a similar situation and know what he should do.

[Delfi]

Erm dude... Its not gonna happen for your friend, this girl is taking him for a fool and your friend is being a fool for allowing her to USE him in this way. I guess love makes a fool of us all sometime. You dont mention ages but if he is a student im guessing he is young. The sooner he cuts ALL his communications with this girl the better off he will be. She is defiantely using him like her butler but without paying him for it. I will leave you with a small quote i came across..

- "To not recieve love as equally as you give it, is not true love and will never work"

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[Ness]

At first I was going to make a "he's trapped in the infamous friend zone" post, bvut after reading that stuff about Morocco, it looks like she's using him. I'd ask him about it and tell him to talk to her aobut it.



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[Armok]

On 2004-04-15 04:41, Ness wrote:
At first I was going to make a "he's trapped in the infamous friend zone" post, bvut after reading that stuff about Morocco, it looks like she's using him. I'd ask him about it and tell him to talk to her aobut it.


Yes he thinks hes in the infamous friend zone but twice shes turned him down (well said 'I don't like you know but I might like you later') and also he has brought it up with her at least a couple of times. Also a mutual friend alex has told her to stop leading him on. Honestly it the most fucked up thing in the world and should be on a sitcom. He honestly believe that it will all end up happy in the last series or sumit.

[Sayuka]

Abort. Abort.
It's never gonna happen, she is abusing him and just using him. It isn't right and you should tell your friend to get out while he can.

[Siris]

Just one females point of view: He should let go and realize they are friends. I think it's safe to say that most single females likes attention from males who find them attractive but his admiration sounds unrequited. So, it totally sounds like she is using him to her advantage. He should quit being her puppy and fall back cushion and find someone who treats him with respect and will return his feelings. She's a lost cause.

[navci]

On 2004-04-16 17:18, Siris wrote:
He should quit being her puppy and fall back cushion and find someone who treats him with respect and will return his feelings. She's a lost cause.


Well said.
Funny thing is, I have said that to countless guys who were suffering from similar problems. They never listen to me.