One is not a lonley world

[Sayara]

I am growing to conclusions, that i am quite the lonered person. That what i do is gonna keep my isolated with the rest of the world. I saw a show last night, and like the cast all came out and had a big chat and laughoff what not, they've done something big and they celebrate. What would an artist do? Finish a big painting, probably nothing. Work on the next one. You don't have a big comotion of people to celebrate with, Youre room mate, whatever but what if they don't care anyway?

Being an artist is quite a lonley world.


Not sure why i post; maybe im wrong, maybe not but like its been slummin me all this time.

[Daikarin]

Your environment is a reflexion of your mind - Maybe you long for social interaction, but subcounsciously decide it's not worth the effort and that it's best to keep yourself in your world, rather than letting someone else discover its private depths and misunderstand it, even humiliate it.

You don't need approval from anyone else. Just from yourself. Do you feel allright being the loner? Or are you worrying about what others might think about you being the loner type...?

[Sayara]

I am rather unsure what others will think about it, Like, will they like that about me, or what?

[Daikarin]

Who gives a damn about that, Tingle? You do. Therefore you are free - To enslave yourself to other's approval, or to choose to please yourself in whatever way you decide to exist.

[REJ-]

It's simply not worth it to try to win other's approval.

[Firocket1690]

Lucky you. I miss the days I was alone and ... content. >_>;

Be glad you can be happy with yourself, some other people want to be social and still phail at that. ;3

I'm not saying being by yourself is a good or bad thing, butif it makes you happy, then go for it.

[Siyamak]

meh, don't worry about it. If you don't have any impulse to be social, then don't. Doing so might actaully make things worse. Its not wrong to prefer to be alone. I only have two friends I visit outside of school, and even thats on occasion, maybe one a month each, or just one of them. I spend most of the time in my house, reading, playing vid games, cursing under my breath at my pile of homework >_>

Despite being a loner, I am for all important purposes sane. Hell, I wouldn't even be being cocky if I said I was better off choosing not to be social. There's not one day I go through school and don't hear about drugs, sex, or alchol multiple times from various diffrent people of diffrent personalities. Even the some of the good kids are screwing themselves over.

The great thing about being a loner, accepting it and wanting it, is it puts you above the influence of others. You begin to care more about what you think is fun, and what is best for you in the long run. You are free to make your own desicions, untainted by a populouse biase that has been steadily degenerating since the late 70s.

Ironically, because we have do most of our actions of our own accord, we can often spread our own influence without even realizing it. For example, you arer an artist; so your work may inspire someone, or give them something to think about. But since the thoughts still revolve around your painting, you are the influence for those thoughts.

Being a loner is not a bad thing, it is merely a way of living. While it may be good for some, others might not function in it to well. Just as we would not funciton in theirs, so they may say it's bad, but it's not, and neither is their way of living. How we choose to live is for the most part our own choice, if yourself is telling you to be a loner, then be on. If it's not, then go ahead and socialize, though I would still recomend putting up some ignorance to peer pressure so that you are still you, and not the mold of what others around you want you to be.

EDIT: One is not a lonely word, it is made up of three letters that bond together.

Pretend like it's a chinese proverb or something http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

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[Maridia]

Everyone has hit the nail on the head here, Tingle. You're the only one who lets yourself be alone. And if that's okay, then okay. But if it becomes a problem, only you can change that.

[Daikarin]

I guess it's not easy, most of the time - To know what to do and to actually do it. Sometimes this gap corrodes us.

[FOAtHeart]

There are lotsa loners; whatcha think the internet is for! http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

I mean, if it works for you. There is no problem. Consider it an advantage ;3

[Shadowpawn]

You know, even though everyone in this topic is right, it's not that easy to just opt from loner to social. The ironic thing about being loner is that other people's opinions of you is that much more important than a social person would think. That's the one thing that keeps loners, loners.

Things is you have to accept that some people just won't like you and some people will, that's life. You can't please everyone and everyone can't please you. We're all just trodding along this life, finding our place. If you want to become social, then by all means try. Keep in mind that in order to make a social connection with someone you have to have to show a bit of empathy.

You want someone to care about what you do, right? Guess what, the person you talk to most likey feels the way. Try to find a common topic to talk about and work your way from there.

[Siyamak]

On 2006-04-26 13:47, Shadowpawn wrote:
You know, even though everyone in this topic is right, it's not that easy to just opt from loner to social. The ironic thing about being loner is that other people's opinions of you is that much more important than a social person would think.

the majority of the posters here have said to not worry about other people's opinion, and basically at times noy even give a crap about them. You say these posters are right, but then you say the people's opinion of a loner is more important than a social person would think. This is contradictory, or this is worded confusingly, you made a word placement mistake, or you never really read anything. Please elaborate.

[Shadowpawn]

I did say it ironic, hence it being contradictory, humans aren't 100% logical. If you look back in the topic Tingle's main conern was the opinions of others on himself. This fear is so great that it would prevent him from being social because he feels that it wouldn't be worth it. To me that sounds like a fear of rejection, something a social person doesn't take into regard. The social person has been rejected sometime in their lives, but they keep trying. This is where all of your advice comes into play about not caring what others think. That fear is the one thing that keeps him alone and why a loner is so critical of what others think. See what I'm saying?

[Siyamak]

On 2006-04-26 14:10, Shadowpawn wrote:
I did say it ironic, hence it being contradictory, humans aren't 100% logical. If you look back in the topic Tingle's main conern was the opinions of others on himself. This fear is so great that it would prevent him from being social because he feels that it wouldn't be worth it. To me that sounds like a fear of rejection, something a social person doesn't take into regard. The social person has been rejected sometime in their lives, but they keep trying. This is where all of your advice comes into play about not caring what others think. That fear is the one thing that keeps him alone and why a loner is so critical of what others think. See what I'm saying?


I get what your saying. You are saying rejection in the social circle makes you a loner, so loners must care about what others think. I do not however, completly agree with this. Being one myself, I think that is dead wrong in some cases. Aside from this forum, I rarely socialize, I don't care to much for it. I get bored doing group activities, I don't care for it, and I don't care what they think.

You are of course still right, such as in the case of a bullied nerd or something. But not completely.

[REJ-]

If you aren't very social and you want to be, practice being social. Even if you're afraid of what people will think about you, go out and do it anyways. Have you heard the saying "I'd rather be quiet and be thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt"? That's the sort of mindset we have here, and it's completely wrong. People are so afraid of looking like the fool, that they just sit in the sidelines, and end up being the fool anyways. Don't get me wrong here, there's nothing wrong with being a loner, it's just that if you want to be social, remaining as a loner won't help you achieve that goal.