On 2005-08-14 19:13, Oplem wrote:
But normal girls don't have all that stuff, and it isn't good for us guys to ahve them watch those shows, because then they will want all that for the birthday. Its just another year older for you girls. Why the big deal?
Yes it is another year. Another birthday of many more to come. And each one less fulfilling than the last. So I ask you, wouldnt you want to have at least one birthday worth remembering?
One forgets the rights of passage, of how we gauge ourselves with the passing of time. Or havent you heard amany people getting all thrilled to say "IM 18 I CAN DO WHAT I WANT" or "WHEN IM 21 ILL GET SOOO DRUNK" etc etc. Guys see been 18 as a sign of them becoming a "man" buying a stupid pack of cigarettes or a porn mag when they turn 18. The sixteenth birthday for girl has a different tone, one must remember that way back in the day most girls where married off at a tender age. Usually 16 or 17. The birthday was a welcoming to "womanhood" (according to the status quo of the time mind you). But now it is just a symbolic birthday, one where most girls would like to remember fondly.
Those shows to me are too fake. We all know they are scripted. We all know the people in the show "know" they are in the show. They do things for the shock value, to get recognized, to simply be on TV. To really have a credible show one would have to "spy" on unsuspected candidates. And we also know that wont happen because of a little thing called "privacy" So the show will do what it is intended to do, not because it portrays a real atmosphere, but portrays one we come to expect.