Wyndham is a very sad vampire.

[Wyndham]

It really sticks when youre almost 19 and youve never had a girlfriend close enough to actually be with, and the only girls nearby that I like enough to try to go out witrh already have a boyfriend, and almost every time, their boyfriends suspect them of cheating, and have her force me out of their lives.
I've been trying to distract my self, but no matter what i do, everything reminds me of how crappy things are.
I'm trying to get my mom to stop smoking, because i want her around as long as possible.
even my birthday planning depresses me. I only know two people that can come, and one is not sure.
I have also the problem that the only person nearby who actually likes to talk to me in walking distance is a baby who calls me "buddy".
I still am waiting for the okay to visit my cousin, one of my few friends, and my mom wont let me until i can remember my meds. the annoying part? one of my meds CAUSES memory loss.
My older brother stopped being a jerk to me, and that's great. but sadly, he stopped being a jerk RIGHT BEFORE he went off to college.

this sucks.

[DikkyRay]

Sorry man.
Girl Problem- Are these good friends? Or just "friends" I suspect the latter because true friends wouldnt just go "sorry Whynd, can't see you anymore. My BF doesnt like you". And some really shitty advice here- you could always talk like you were gay (I am not making fun of gays, or calling you gay, just using it in context. Please dont give me a warning....). That way the boyfriends wouldn't think you are competition.
Actually, they have the problem, not you. What kind of boyfriend feels competition with his girl's friends?
Smoking/Birthday- I know you know, but its obligitory. Smoking will kill your mom. Theres no doubt. Just tell her that you want her around as much as possible. If it gets really bad, have her see a psychologist (i dont call them shrinks, they really help). Have her go for checkups freaquently, incase she does get some form of cancer, doctors can find it early and do something. For the birthday-that sucks man. But probably better than mine. My sweet 16 and i had to go to fucking driving school http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_frown.gif
That one walking distance thing-can....you explain a little better? lol i dont quite incerstand the whole baby buddy thing.
Cousin- Why dont you explain that to your mom. Alsowrite down the meds on paper to remember them easier. See a doctor if the memory loss becomes a problem.
Sibling-trust me. Same thing happens with all siblings.

[Wyndham]

ill try to explain more than half were good frends, and I don't pretend to be gay, because if i even did for a little bit,how would I explain to the gay guys who know me?
I have tried talking to my mom. I need to be more aggressive, i guess.
the thing about the kid is whenever i walk by their house, which is next door, the kid runs to the door saying "buddy!'. he just talks in gibberish for a few minutes, then tries to play with his car toys by rollin g them to me.

[DikkyRay]

Like i said. The whole "talk like you were gay" was really crappy advice.
You could always tell them thats how you feel, and you really want to be friends again. Ask them if they know anyone who will hook up. Or, more crappy advice, get someone to beat the boyfriends senseless http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_razz.gif /enddikky'scrappyadvice

Although we are always told "Passive agressive" in cases where people are doing something harmful, be very aggressive.

And the kid thing....well he may look up to you.

[ABDUR101]

Your mom smoking; not a big deal. I come from a family of smokers, some of them are hellish smokers; mom is 61 and dad is nearing the 60 mark, and they're fine; have smoked all their lives. Don't give in to the anti-smoking bullshit. Smoking isn't good for you, but really, what the fuck is? Even oxygen destroys our bodies over time, and pure oxygen actually kills us. Odds are your parents will die of other health related issues from what they had in their diet, rather than because they were a smoker.

As for a lack of girlfriend; learn to be able to deal with being alone, don't be someone who NEEDS to have someone else there constantly. Being dependent on someone else for your happiness isn't a good thing, and will lead to problems in the relationship down the line. That aside, you lack a girlfriend for now, sorry to hear; but don't dwell on the negative or no one will want to be your girlfriend.

Friends of the female persuasion; if their boyfriends are telling them not to spend time with you, due to jealousy or suspected cheating, your friends must be pretty fucking stupid. Oh gee lets stick with the guy who doesn't trust me with my own friends. ^_^ The hell with your friends if they're like that, if they leave you alone while they're with someone who TELLS THEM not to see their own friends, and they listen; guess what, they're not really your friend anyway. You got off cheap by not having them around, enjoy it; and when they break up and are boo-hooing about it, stay away from them. Don't be their little sympathy sponge, squeezing you when they need it and then basically telling you to fuck off when things are going ok for them.


There, I think I feel like /cutting afew flowers now. =]

[Shiro_Ryuu]

Do I have to pull the I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 21 years old card again? Well, I have one now, but still, you're not the only one.

[KodiaX987]

I was so lacking in the girlfriend department that my father sincerely believed I was homosexual.


It was a lot more trouble than it sounded like in this post.

[Shiro_Ryuu]

Yeah, I really hate it when people automatically think you're gay just because you don't have a girlfriend or never had one in your life. Some people are either unlucky or in the wrong place or whatever, you can't judge their sexuality by thinking "oh, he never had a girlfriend, he's gay". Its just wrong.

[ABDUR101]

On 2007-07-30 19:17, KodiaX987 wrote:
I was so lacking in the girlfriend department that my father sincerely believed I was homosexual.


It was a lot more trouble than it sounded like in this post.


Thats funny to me anyway. I like people who make such jumps based on nothing. =]

[KodiaX987]

It was very much an exercise in both looking shocked while at the same time, keeping myself from exploding into a million pieces of laughter.

I mean, we're eating dinner as usual, and the TV's on, and we're looking at the news a bit, and all of a sudden...

Dad: "Are you a fag?"
Me: "Ga-huh?"
Dad: "I mean, you can tell us, I got no problem with you being a fag at all."
Me: "Nooooooo!"

Then a few years later...

Half-brother: "You know man, I know dad was seriously pissed when he found a porn folder on your computer... But deep down inside, let me tell you... he was relieved."

[Weeaboolits]

My stepdad thought my bro was because he wears tight pants and has friends that are. :/

[Thalui89]

1: Heh. Lolz at "dont give into anti smoking bullshit". Heh some people actually enjoy CLEAN air. You see the rather ironic part about smoking is that whilst you smokers wack back the fags like theres no tomorrow, your smoke is actually doing more damage to the people around you. I think its great that people are trying to stop their elders from smoking.

2: As for the girl friend thing, theres plenty more fish in the sea. Literally. After all there are more women than men in the world!

3: If your meds are causing trouble perhaps you should consult your doctor. There may be something he can do for you. Also the paper thing was a good idea.

4: Not all siblings bicker constantly but i think its great that you've made your relationship with your brother stronger than it was.. He may not be there with you now but he'll come home eventually.

5: As for the B-day thing, a whole mass of friends isnt everything. A small group of good friends can be better than alot of friends.

6: Your 'friends' who abandon you for their Boy friend are stupid. Personally I'd never dream of trying to control someone elses life, heh makes the relationship unfair. Basically if they do abandon you, then they werent worth having as friends. Good riddance!

[ABDUR101]

On 2007-07-31 16:27, Thalui89 wrote:
1: Heh. Lolz at "dont give into anti smoking bullshit". Heh some people actually enjoy CLEAN air. You see the rather ironic part about smoking is that whilst you smokers wack back the fags like theres no tomorrow, your smoke is actually doing more damage to the people around you. I think its great that people are trying to stop their elders from smoking.


That would be the exact anti-smoking bullshit I was talking about. If you think you're having more harm done to you than the smoker is supposedly having done to them, HAHA. Really, funny. Drive much? Go outside much? Hell, stay INSIDE much? Odds are there's plenty of stuff in the air thats alot worse than the little bit of smoke you're inhaling at a restaurant. To even bitch and whine about it is funny.

Ever think of what you breath and absorb through the skin when you're using cleaning products in the bathroom and so on? Everything has a warning label on it to contact poison control if ingested, so odds are from day to day, everyone is getting a nice dose of 'bad things' from every day products. Jumping on smoking is just a funny thing to do, because there are plenty of things in everyone's day to day life that does damage to them, whether they realise it or not.

Aswell, just so you know, I don't smoke, so lets try not to talk shit as if you know anything about me or my habits. =]

Oran-
To me, it's rude to nag and complain to someone who smokes, who are you to tell them to stop doing what they want and enjoy? Aslong as she's not slinging back two or three packs a day, your mother is fine Oran. If a cig every so often is something she enjoys, don't take it away from her. She's an adult, she knows the risks(and lets be honest, you're only at risk if you're smoking like there's no tommorow); if and when she wants to quit for her own reasons, support her then, but don't push her.

[Wyndham]

On 2007-07-30 20:40, Ronin_Cooper wrote:
My stepdad thought my bro was because he wears tight pants and has friends that are. :/


actually, 3 years ago when my grandparents came to visit, they thought I was a female babysitter.
and I have had friends who also thought i was a girl, or gay.

[DikkyRay]

On 2007-07-31 17:04, ABDUR101 wrote:

On 2007-07-31 16:27, Thalui89 wrote:
1: Heh. Lolz at "dont give into anti smoking bullshit". Heh some people actually enjoy CLEAN air. You see the rather ironic part about smoking is that whilst you smokers wack back the fags like theres no tomorrow, your smoke is actually doing more damage to the people around you. I think its great that people are trying to stop their elders from smoking.


That would be the exact anti-smoking bullshit I was talking about. If you think you're having more harm done to you than the smoker is supposedly having done to them, HAHA. Really, funny. Drive much? Go outside much? Hell, stay INSIDE much? Odds are there's plenty of stuff in the air thats alot worse than the little bit of smoke you're inhaling at a restaurant. To even bitch and whine about it is funny.

Ever think of what you breath and absorb through the skin when you're using cleaning products in the bathroom and so on? Everything has a warning label on it to contact poison control if ingested, so odds are from day to day, everyone is getting a nice dose of 'bad things' from every day products. Jumping on smoking is just a funny thing to do, because there are plenty of things in everyone's day to day life that does damage to them, whether they realise it or not.
What about people with Asthma? My mom had a serious asthma attack once because some douche was smoking near her. Dont think that it was "Omg 1 time thing. That attack could be from anything. The smoker ws nearby"
It happens ONLY when smokers are nearby, those really bad attacks.
What about those thousands beyond thousands of testing done, showing what happens because of smokers, to their lungs and such?
Just because your family didnt get the negative side effects, dont think that "lolsmokings ok those ads are bullshit" I know plenty of people who died because of smoking, some nonsmokers as well because of secondhand smoke

[AlexCraig]

On 2007-07-31 17:04, ABDUR101 wrote:
That would be the exact anti-smoking bullshit I was talking about. If you think you're having more harm done to you than the smoker is supposedly having done to them, HAHA. Really, funny. Drive much? Go outside much? Hell, stay INSIDE much? Odds are there's plenty of stuff in the air thats alot worse than the little bit of smoke you're inhaling at a restaurant. To even bitch and whine about it is funny.

Ever think of what you breath and absorb through the skin when you're using cleaning products in the bathroom and so on? Everything has a warning label on it to contact poison control if ingested, so odds are from day to day, everyone is getting a nice dose of 'bad things' from every day products. Jumping on smoking is just a funny thing to do, because there are plenty of things in everyone's day to day life that does damage to them, whether they realise it or not.

Aswell, just so you know, I don't smoke, so lets try not to talk shit as if you know anything about me or my habits. =]

Oran-
To me, it's rude to nag and complain to someone who smokes, who are you to tell them to stop doing what they want and enjoy? Aslong as she's not slinging back two or three packs a day, your mother is fine Oran. If a cig every so often is something she enjoys, don't take it away from her. She's an adult, she knows the risks(and lets be honest, you're only at risk if you're smoking like there's no tommorow); if and when she wants to quit for her own reasons, support her then, but don't push her.


You say that there is plenty of things in our daily lives that do harm to us, this is true. But smoking just speeds up the process. It just kills you in a newer and faster way. To say it doesn't is a bogus lie.
And yes, things come with warning labels in case they are ingested, but it isn't like everyone is drinking it straight or snorting it. Some do, I'll admit that, but not everyone.
You make this whole smoking issue sound like it is nothing, but it isn't nothing. Many people die from smoking. Even more than that die from sidestream smoke. You don't really seem to be doing research on this.

As for his mother, he is her son and SHOULD tell her about the risks of smoking. Just because she is an adult does not entirely mean that she knows all the risks of smoking. Most adults who smoke don't, or they do and brush it off as if it were nothing. You would probably say that it is their choice, which it is, but they are putting others at risk who might not want to inhale smoke. If his mom smokes and nobody likes it but her, he should let her know and it would be in her best interest to stop.

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[Sord]

eh, I already talked over AIM with Wynd, so I'm not going to bother putting much else then the following:

can we just drop the smoke bad/not bad topic. Unless you can give some advice as to how to get his mom to quit or you feel she should have the right to do so, then say so. Otherwise, your hardly contributing to any sort of help or advice. Granted, forums may not be the best to place to ask for some serious advice, but at least show some respect when someone gives a serious complaint that has to do with something besides a game.

[Shiro_Ryuu]

One of my neighbors who was a good friend of my mom's died of breast cancer, and she would usually have a ciggaratte or two [or a few] everyday, but my mom still smokes, although it doesn't look to be as much as before now, and she's quite inconsistent with her smoking. But yeah, I do get worried about my mom, my mom worries about me as most moms worry about their children, so why can't children worry about their moms too?

[ABDUR101]

The point is; people over-react to the whole 'smoking kills'-thing. Guess what, alot of shit kills you, but that doesn't mean you stop doing what you enjoy. If someone enjoys a cig, let them. And hey, if you're a bystander, guess what, you're just a statistic, deal with it like everyone else; thats the reality of life itself.

In the grand scheme of things, someone smoking next to you in a bar is the least of your worries, it's the guy who left the bar drunk that you should be worrying about, not the guy who just wants to relax with a cig after work.(and who the hell bothered to bring asthma into the arguement? If you have asthma, sure, thats why there's smoking and non-smoking sections; and if there isn't a non-smoking section, you have my sympathy and I understand you can't handle pollutants such as smoke, but go elsewhere to eat, etc)

Regardless, Oran, goodluck with whatever. You'll deal with it I'm sure.

[Thalui89]

On 2007-07-31 19:20, ABDUR101 wrote:
The point is; people over-react to the whole 'smoking kills'-thing. Guess what, alot of shit kills you, but that doesn't mean you stop doing what you enjoy. If someone enjoys a cig, let them. And hey, if you're a bystander, guess what, you're just a statistic, deal with it like everyone else; thats the reality of life itself.

In the grand scheme of things, someone smoking next to you in a bar is the least of your worries, it's the guy who left the bar drunk that you should be worrying about, not the guy who just wants to relax with a cig after work.(and who the hell bothered to bring asthma into the arguement? If you have asthma, sure, thats why there's smoking and non-smoking sections; and if there isn't a non-smoking section, you have my sympathy and I understand you can't handle pollutants such as smoke, but go elsewhere to eat, etc)

Regardless, Oran, goodluck with whatever. You'll deal with it I'm sure.



So basically i should stand there and die due to someone elses selfishness? No i don't think so. You claim that smokers have the right to smoke and yeah in a way i guess they do. But guess what? I have the right to air that isnt packed full of fag smoke. I have the right to breathe air that wont damage my lungs. We all have that right and thankfully, here in England a thing called a smoking ban has came in. Its made a difference.

As for the 'everyday item harms you' arguement all i can say its lawlz in your face abdur. I think we all know what bleach can do etc. Were not stupid. So dont patronise

In regards to the asthma arguement, i don't see why people with asthma should have to move somewhere else to eat just because of peoples ignorance with their cigarettes. This debate sickens me.



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[AlexCraig]

That is my exact opinion, Thalui. I just didn't know exactly how to word it.

[PJ]

As long as smokers aren't like, purposefully blowing smoke into my face like a jerk, I won't tell them to stop. It's not my place to.

I don't like the smell personally, but I'm sure they don't like my face http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

[DLShAdOw]

sorry