anwserman
Mar 17, 2004, 11:38 PM
Yes. I am in college. Ranting about high-school romance. WHAT THE HELL IS THE BIG DEAL WITH HIGH SCHOOL DATING?!?!?!?!?!?! It pisses me off MAJORLY.
Ok, you have to see where I'm coming from to understand why I am rather pissed off about this subject... BECAUSE I HEAR IT ALL THE TIME. Regardless, a couple things that somewhat angers me, or fuels the fire and my thinking behind the subject.
1) I work at a DQ. With high-school students. EVERYTHING I HEAR is about DATING. Its not a bad thing at all, and like what one employee stated, Nikki, is that you can learn some important things about dating in high-school, assuming you're with the right person. However, it gets me really, really pissed off when they sit there and go on and on and on about how they can't find a date, or that somebody cheated on them.
ITS HIGH-SCHOOL FOR CRYING OUT LOUD. 95% of the time, dating in high-school = sex. Nothing else, once you get sick of someone, you get dumped and your former boy/girlfriend is already hooked up the next day. IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. Its almost guarenteed that any highschool "romance" isn't going to last out of highschool. I didn't say it will NEVER work, but almost always it won't.
2) I never dated in high-school. Why? I'm different. Regardless of that matter, you look at how people get treated like shit in school and over how much drama appears over the subject. Wait until after high school for crying out loud! It means NOTHING in school unless you've actually got lucky and found Mr. or Ms. Right. And don't fall into peer pressure to date or to have, it only leads to unnecessary pressure, heartache and depression. Which, leads to thought number 3.
3) Kelli and Mitch. I've had conversations with the two of them about sex.... they've dated a little bit, and from what I've heard from the both of them, sex isn't that big of a deal. Kelli was never pressured into the whole date/sex thing, so it wasn't a big deal (she's female, females don't typically pressure each other into sex from what I've seen or heard of.) Mitch, on the other hand, was being pressured into it but resisted. And waited honestly. He avoided romance really and made sure it was with a girl he liked. Same with Kelli, except with a guy. You know what? He has no "romantic" trauma in his life (along with no children, unlike some of his friends), and Kelli is getting over some of hers right now... ironically, her problem was dating a highschooler. Not really a problem anymore, they're no longer friends. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_razz.gif
Both waited until late into their Senior year, to consimate and/or start to date. Yay. No big deal there, no trauma, no unnecessary tears spilt over why so and so popular person dumped them, NOTHING. Its the way to be.
4) I've never dated, and I'm still a virgin. Damn proud of it, too. I could care less about what people think... I don't care anymore. I'm in college, and dating is not a concern. Personally, I'm more interested in making a close net friends to rely on then actually finding somebody. Because I don't think I'll find anybody around here... its kinda like highschool. (Gogebic Community College is known as the 13th Grade.) Honestly, it is but with some people I don't know. Cliches and groups still exist somewhat, but its no big deal. No trauma, nothing.
And when I sit there and look at some of the highschoolers whom I work with, and who talk about the emotions that go through dating, I tell them it means nothing. Some know what I'm going to say, and say that it means nothing during high-school. Perhaps I'm wrong, perhaps it does mean something in high-school. But the thing is... if its all about the sex, its about nothing at all. It means nothing about human emotions, then its about nothing. Its called finding somebody to screw, and once you get bored you find someone else then.
I'm glad I avoided the whole situation in regards to dating, in highschool that is... did I miss much? Not really, the only thing I can truely think that I missed is unneeded heartbreak and broken trust.... and the ever-so-neat rumor mill.
Ok, you have to see where I'm coming from to understand why I am rather pissed off about this subject... BECAUSE I HEAR IT ALL THE TIME. Regardless, a couple things that somewhat angers me, or fuels the fire and my thinking behind the subject.
1) I work at a DQ. With high-school students. EVERYTHING I HEAR is about DATING. Its not a bad thing at all, and like what one employee stated, Nikki, is that you can learn some important things about dating in high-school, assuming you're with the right person. However, it gets me really, really pissed off when they sit there and go on and on and on about how they can't find a date, or that somebody cheated on them.
ITS HIGH-SCHOOL FOR CRYING OUT LOUD. 95% of the time, dating in high-school = sex. Nothing else, once you get sick of someone, you get dumped and your former boy/girlfriend is already hooked up the next day. IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. Its almost guarenteed that any highschool "romance" isn't going to last out of highschool. I didn't say it will NEVER work, but almost always it won't.
2) I never dated in high-school. Why? I'm different. Regardless of that matter, you look at how people get treated like shit in school and over how much drama appears over the subject. Wait until after high school for crying out loud! It means NOTHING in school unless you've actually got lucky and found Mr. or Ms. Right. And don't fall into peer pressure to date or to have, it only leads to unnecessary pressure, heartache and depression. Which, leads to thought number 3.
3) Kelli and Mitch. I've had conversations with the two of them about sex.... they've dated a little bit, and from what I've heard from the both of them, sex isn't that big of a deal. Kelli was never pressured into the whole date/sex thing, so it wasn't a big deal (she's female, females don't typically pressure each other into sex from what I've seen or heard of.) Mitch, on the other hand, was being pressured into it but resisted. And waited honestly. He avoided romance really and made sure it was with a girl he liked. Same with Kelli, except with a guy. You know what? He has no "romantic" trauma in his life (along with no children, unlike some of his friends), and Kelli is getting over some of hers right now... ironically, her problem was dating a highschooler. Not really a problem anymore, they're no longer friends. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_razz.gif
Both waited until late into their Senior year, to consimate and/or start to date. Yay. No big deal there, no trauma, no unnecessary tears spilt over why so and so popular person dumped them, NOTHING. Its the way to be.
4) I've never dated, and I'm still a virgin. Damn proud of it, too. I could care less about what people think... I don't care anymore. I'm in college, and dating is not a concern. Personally, I'm more interested in making a close net friends to rely on then actually finding somebody. Because I don't think I'll find anybody around here... its kinda like highschool. (Gogebic Community College is known as the 13th Grade.) Honestly, it is but with some people I don't know. Cliches and groups still exist somewhat, but its no big deal. No trauma, nothing.
And when I sit there and look at some of the highschoolers whom I work with, and who talk about the emotions that go through dating, I tell them it means nothing. Some know what I'm going to say, and say that it means nothing during high-school. Perhaps I'm wrong, perhaps it does mean something in high-school. But the thing is... if its all about the sex, its about nothing at all. It means nothing about human emotions, then its about nothing. Its called finding somebody to screw, and once you get bored you find someone else then.
I'm glad I avoided the whole situation in regards to dating, in highschool that is... did I miss much? Not really, the only thing I can truely think that I missed is unneeded heartbreak and broken trust.... and the ever-so-neat rumor mill.