Kelli...

[anwserman]

Wow, a post about someone other then Mitch. Who would have thought?

Anyway, to cut to the chase, it boils down to this. Kelli and I have gotten a fricking awesome friendship this year at college, and we can discuss anything.... hell, we looked at japanese hentai together (yay for yaoi!) because we were insanely bored one night. In a nutshell, we've gotten really close.

So, we were talking about this, and she admits to me that for this summer, I'm one of the couple reasons why she's going to stick here for the summer before heading off to college... and that I rank up there with her boyfriend when it comes to our relationship, except that I'm gay (thats a good thing mind you).

I'm stuck in one hell of a position right now. I'm not her boyfriend, but the words I say probably have enough meaning behind them... and it is tearing me up inside with what I have to do with her. I have to tell her to get out of this fucking area this summer, to get out of Hurley WI and to go her college at NMU and to move on. She tells me how much she hates this area, and how I'm one of the reasons why she's still sane in regards to living here. And now I feel shitty, yet surprising happy, that I'm one of the reasons why she is staying up here this summer.

Its not that big of a deal, but it just sucks. No one else will tell her this, and I don't want to bring Mitch into the subject... indirectly anyway. Kelli, at one point, believed that I was staying up here just for Mitch (which I am not), and that I am in an actual program... and that I shouldn't stay here for somebody. And now, its my turn to tell her the exact same thing back to her, because she admitted it to me.

That I'm one of the few reasons that she's staying here for.

.......

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[Bradicus]

In this case, as well as many others, the truth is your friend. She can hardly get mad at you for looking out for her.

[Sord]

you are probably one of the worst problem creators i know, or at least they start near you. The only topped i'm afraid to say is spike cause his always seem harder to solve, plus yours always seem to get solved. Well, I suggest you still tell her, but, I'm not really sure what else to say.

[Guile]

I don't know who Mitch or Kelli or if they post here. All I can say is don't take the situation to seriously. If you wish to tell her to leave than do so, and if she chooses to stay than so be it.

[Armok]

Is she just moving to collage. Sounds like nerves to me. Anyway tell her no matter what that you'll always be friends and that she can always email/text/phone you if she has any problems.

Also reassure her that her moving away will in no way damage you friendship and that everytime you do meet up you'll have a great big blow out and amazing time.

Now that will be $150 dollars for my time thanks.

[Solstis]

Tell her to get out of hell and run! RUN FOR THE HILLS!

Well, not really, but I agree with all of the posts so far.

Don't brust it off as if it's nothing, but you must tell her the truth.

*Sits down and waits for anwserman to fix the problem.*

[Siris]

Please don't take any offense to this because absolutely none is intended but I'm just curious about whether or not these people know you talk about them openly on a forum for the world to read? I mean you have even displayed pictures of them in your signature too...I would be a little creeped out to find out if someone was doing this without my knowledge. Just something to think about in case they aren't aware. Anyway...I say tell her exactly what you said here, it seems you're not into games so be absolutely honest with her and have an open talk. Most of all remember that things happen for a reason and if it's meant to be it will be. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[HUnewearl_Meira]

Since when is it fashionable to shun someone who cares about you? If she likes being around you that much, then don't push her away. It's not going to hurt her to spend her summer with you, is it? I'll tell you what, man. I have a number of very very close friends who I haven't seen in quite some time, because we had to our separate ways when our educations diverged. We're still friends, and I'd still go to extreme lengths to help them out if they were in trouble, but life's just not the same as it was. I miss those friends, and if I had the chance to spend another summer with them, I'd take that chance in a heartbeat.

So in short... Never push away a friend.

[anwserman]

Ah...

If anybody notices, most of my rants are spur-of-the-moment rants, and that in reality, its not much to rant about. Well (in a fashion similar to how the rest of my rants are solved), I did email her about it and we later talked about it in person..

And that most of the reason still goes to the fact that she can't afford rent and can't find a place in such short notice. However, we did talk about going to UW-Madison the year after this upcoming year, and that we should rent an apartment together. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

Oh, they both know about the sigs. Hell, they both know that I rant on the forums if I have a problem to deal with (with myself, them or anything)... so its all good. And hell, they don't know the URL here.

http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif



<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: anwserman on 2004-04-14 12:32 ]</font>

[Sord]

On 2004-04-14 12:31, anwserman wrote:
Ah...

If anybody notices, most of my rants are spur-of-the-moment rants, and that in reality, its not much to rant about. Well (in a fashion similar to how the rest of my rants are solved), I did email her about it and we later talked about it in person..

And that most of the reason still goes to the fact that she can't afford rent and can't find a place in such short notice. However, we did talk about going to UW-Madison the year after this upcoming year, and that we should rent an apartment together. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

Oh, they both know about the sigs. Hell, they both know that I rant on the forums if I have a problem to deal with (with myself, them or anything)... so its all good. And hell, they don't know the URL here.

http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

...you are one lucky (and predictable) s.o.b. (i mean that in the best possible way of course http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif )

[Solstis]

On 2004-04-14 14:09, Sord wrote:


On 2004-04-14 12:31, anwserman wrote:
Ah...

If anybody notices, most of my rants are spur-of-the-moment rants, and that in reality, its not much to rant about. Well (in a fashion similar to how the rest of my rants are solved), I did email her about it and we later talked about it in person..

And that most of the reason still goes to the fact that she can't afford rent and can't find a place in such short notice. However, we did talk about going to UW-Madison the year after this upcoming year, and that we should rent an apartment together. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

Oh, they both know about the sigs. Hell, they both know that I rant on the forums if I have a problem to deal with (with myself, them or anything)... so its all good. And hell, they don't know the URL here.

http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

...you are one lucky (and predictable) s.o.b. (i mean that in the best possible way of course http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif )



Quite.

Renting an apartment together sounds good, but what happens to poor Mitch?

[Sord]

On 2004-04-14 14:10, Solstis wrote:


On 2004-04-14 14:09, Sord wrote:


On 2004-04-14 12:31, anwserman wrote:
Ah...

If anybody notices, most of my rants are spur-of-the-moment rants, and that in reality, its not much to rant about. Well (in a fashion similar to how the rest of my rants are solved), I did email her about it and we later talked about it in person..

And that most of the reason still goes to the fact that she can't afford rent and can't find a place in such short notice. However, we did talk about going to UW-Madison the year after this upcoming year, and that we should rent an apartment together. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

Oh, they both know about the sigs. Hell, they both know that I rant on the forums if I have a problem to deal with (with myself, them or anything)... so its all good. And hell, they don't know the URL here.

http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

...you are one lucky (and predictable) s.o.b. (i mean that in the best possible way of course http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif )



Quite.

Renting an apartment together sounds good, but what happens to poor Mitch?




On 2004-04-01 15:36, Sord wrote:
You and Kelli have a better friendship. I find often just a friendly attraction can lead to love and love to a sexual attraction. After all, you did say that you wouldn't mind experimenting with girls after you've done it with a guy you love, but priorities can and will change, it's just a matter of which ones.

[Solstis]

On 2004-04-14 14:29, Sord wrote:


On 2004-04-14 14:10, Solstis wrote:


On 2004-04-14 14:09, Sord wrote:


On 2004-04-14 12:31, anwserman wrote:
Ah...

If anybody notices, most of my rants are spur-of-the-moment rants, and that in reality, its not much to rant about. Well (in a fashion similar to how the rest of my rants are solved), I did email her about it and we later talked about it in person..

And that most of the reason still goes to the fact that she can't afford rent and can't find a place in such short notice. However, we did talk about going to UW-Madison the year after this upcoming year, and that we should rent an apartment together. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

Oh, they both know about the sigs. Hell, they both know that I rant on the forums if I have a problem to deal with (with myself, them or anything)... so its all good. And hell, they don't know the URL here.

http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

...you are one lucky (and predictable) s.o.b. (i mean that in the best possible way of course http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif )



Quite.

Renting an apartment together sounds good, but what happens to poor Mitch?




On 2004-04-01 15:36, Sord wrote:
You and Kelli have a better friendship. I find often just a friendly attraction can lead to love and love to a sexual attraction. After all, you did say that you wouldn't mind experimenting with girls after you've done it with a guy you love, but priorities can and will change, it's just a matter of which ones.





You're really stuck on this aren't you?

We get your point already Sord... *sighs*

Nevermind.


[Edit]: Why did you quote yourself?


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[Sord]

On 2004-04-14 18:58, Solstis wrote:


On 2004-04-14 14:29, Sord wrote:


On 2004-04-14 14:10, Solstis wrote:


On 2004-04-14 14:09, Sord wrote:


On 2004-04-14 12:31, anwserman wrote:
Ah...

If anybody notices, most of my rants are spur-of-the-moment rants, and that in reality, its not much to rant about. Well (in a fashion similar to how the rest of my rants are solved), I did email her about it and we later talked about it in person..

And that most of the reason still goes to the fact that she can't afford rent and can't find a place in such short notice. However, we did talk about going to UW-Madison the year after this upcoming year, and that we should rent an apartment together. http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

Oh, they both know about the sigs. Hell, they both know that I rant on the forums if I have a problem to deal with (with myself, them or anything)... so its all good. And hell, they don't know the URL here.

http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

...you are one lucky (and predictable) s.o.b. (i mean that in the best possible way of course http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif )



Quite.

Renting an apartment together sounds good, but what happens to poor Mitch?




On 2004-04-01 15:36, Sord wrote:
You and Kelli have a better friendship. I find often just a friendly attraction can lead to love and love to a sexual attraction. After all, you did say that you wouldn't mind experimenting with girls after you've done it with a guy you love, but priorities can and will change, it's just a matter of which ones.





You're really stuck on this aren't you?

We get your point already Sord... *sighs*

Nevermind.


[Edit]: Why did you quote yourself?


<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: Solstis on 2004-04-14 18:59 ]</font>

stuck on what? If your talking about trying to be less gay, I didn't mean that in a rude way, I already explained that. I just wanted to quote that cause it answer your question, and using a pressure pad to highlight is a pain in the ass so i just highlighted the paragrahph.

[Armok]

Don't stop ranting about pointless stuff anwserman its what keeps me coming here wondering how youve messed up your life at the moment. Your like the forum version of my friend Gary whos completely obcessed with some girl.

[anwserman]

On 2004-04-15 03:02, Armok wrote:
Don't stop ranting about pointless stuff anwserman its what keeps me coming here wondering how youve messed up your life at the moment. Your like the forum version of my friend Gary whos completely obcessed with some girl.



Ah, that makes me feel good inside.
http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_disapprove.gif

[Evil_Althena8]

On 2004-04-15 03:02, Armok wrote:
Don't stop ranting about pointless stuff anwserman its what keeps me coming here wondering how youve messed up your life at the moment. Your like the forum version of my friend Gary whos completely obcessed with some girl.



hey...be nice. Sometimes it's good to have consideration for other's problems. You have a choice in reading this or just ignoring it, you know.

[anwserman]

On 2004-04-15 07:58, anwserman wrote:


On 2004-04-15 03:02, Armok wrote:
Don't stop ranting about pointless stuff anwserman its what keeps me coming here wondering how youve messed up your life at the moment. Your like the forum version of my friend Gary whos completely obcessed with some girl.



Ah, that makes me feel good inside.
http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_disapprove.gif



Actually, I think it goes more along the lines of this:
I make my problems public so I can get input from various people with different backgrounds so I can try to make the best decision possible.

But, at least I'm aware that my life isn't perfect and that I try to get help with my problems - as trivial as they might be - so I can try to make the best decisions possible.... instead of keeping everything inside and making rash decisions.

[Siris]

[/quote]

Actually, I think it goes more along the lines of this:
I make my problems public so I can get input from various people with different backgrounds so I can try to make the best decision possible.

But, at least I'm aware that my life isn't perfect and that I try to get help with my problems - as trivial as they might be - so I can try to make the best decisions possible.... instead of keeping everything inside and making rash decisions.

[/quote]

I am sorry if my earlier post made you feel like you had to justify why you post here about this stuff, I am hoping it didn't. My only concern was that you are posting personal information about people and that's kind of...umm...personal. Like I said, if someone was posting about me and I found out about it I'd be pretty pissed off. How would you feel?

[Solstis]

On 2004-04-15 13:32, Siris wrote:



Actually, I think it goes more along the lines of this:
I make my problems public so I can get input from various people with different backgrounds so I can try to make the best decision possible.

But, at least I'm aware that my life isn't perfect and that I try to get help with my problems - as trivial as they might be - so I can try to make the best decisions possible.... instead of keeping everything inside and making rash decisions.



http://www.pso-world.com/psoworld/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

I RARELY post anything personal on PSOW, and when I do, people have a habit of overlooking it/ignoring it (whew!).

And sorry Sord, I was in a funk of sorts yesterday.

I am sorry if my earlier post made you feel like you had to justify why you post here about this stuff, I am hoping it didn't. My only concern was that you are posting personal information about people and that's kind of...umm...personal. Like I said, if someone was posting about me and I found out about it I'd be pretty pissed off. How would you feel?

[anwserman]

On 2004-04-15 13:32, Siris wrote:





Actually, I think it goes more along the lines of this:
I make my problems public so I can get input from various people with different backgrounds so I can try to make the best decision possible.

But, at least I'm aware that my life isn't perfect and that I try to get help with my problems - as trivial as they might be - so I can try to make the best decisions possible.... instead of keeping everything inside and making rash decisions.



I am sorry if my earlier post made you feel like you had to justify why you post here about this stuff, I am hoping it didn't. My only concern was that you are posting personal information about people and that's kind of...umm...personal. Like I said, if someone was posting about me and I found out about it I'd be pretty pissed off. How would you feel?

[/quote]

Actually, it was directed towards Armok.
But hmmm... though you'd rightfully be pissed about it - you'd have to look at it from the perspective that the person is having difficulties and is looking for help in regards to the situation.

I dunno...?

[Armok]

Hay I'm not knocking you anwserman your posts always give me insights into my own messed up world. I would post my own problems but I'm far to good at repressing those kinds of things so respect to ya for bein so open wish I could be.