Arislan
Dec 11, 2004, 03:27 PM
Right. Let me start off by saying I really don't want to be neglecting my duties on this site. I know, the whole "we volunteer, be patient" type crap. But I've hardly posted over the time that the site has come back up. I've hardly been in the channel. It's not that I don't want to be. I'm just having a horrible time of life at the moment.
Right, so, on the subject of my fiancee, I looked up some info on the whole getting married thing. Looks like the Chinese government basically wants us to get married in China, and I have to bring pretty much every piece of legal papers I've ever recieved in order to show different things. And I have to win over her parents, since apparently, a signature on some paper by both her parents is a requirement for marriage. Adult? Meh, like that matters. Great, hope I make a good impression. Then, after that, I have to apply for a spousal visa for her. Fine and all, this is all procedural, but the whole thing, from start to finish, could take up to 2 months, just depending on how quickly everything gets processed. How the FUCK am I supposed to live in China for 2 months? I don't have any money to speak of, which is something I'll get to in a minute. I know it's cheaper than the US, but 2 months? Where am I supposed to stay? Better make a REAL good impression on those parents.
So, I'm still living at home with my mother. Only the house has no water. And no electricity. Hasn't for over 2 weeks. Basically, she got herself fired from her teaching job after not taking a requested drug test (as well she shouldn't have, she would have come up positive, I'm sure), and hasn't bothered looking for a new job over the past few months. So her savings, once rather hefty, has gone to nothing. Not a cent. She's barely scraping by feeding herself, the stupid dozen or so cats, and paying for cigarettes. Seems to me there are a couple thigs in that list that she can drop to save some cash, but that's neither here nor there.
So, sitting at home is a no-go. No electricity means no computer, no water means no showering. I could care less about the bathroom, I can always go when I go somewhere, that's livable. But I'm a generally cleanly type, and not being able to shower every day or other day is really getting to me. I actually freaking washed myself using the sink down at the game store I go to and help out at. Which, actually, is where I have been spending all my waking time outside of work.
So, I figured, even without electricity, sure, I can charge my laptop up every day or so and go on when I'm at home. I have phone service still, and while dialup may suck, it's something. That's not to be either, and I won't get into the reasons for that. Basically, I can't get online at home, and here at the game store, the computers I can use to get online don't really have net access to speak of. Rather, they do, but the standard net cafe software stuff doesn't let you do too much other than playing games. Too many kids, too much chance of bad stuff. I understand the reasoning, but damn, I'd *really* love to be able to sit on IRC for a while chatting with Navi, Frink, Shuri, Ian and crew.
So, no net, unable to sit at home, and no real cash. Why? I have two paychecks before I'm supposed to go back to Japan. And wow, I come to find out that my mom dipped into my schooling accounts (money just for school) to pay bills so she can sit on her ass longer without a job. So *that* may be in jeopardy as well. How the heck am I supposed to pln a marriage with someone if I'm not in the same country? Damn it! So, two paychecks. Figuring I'll be able to make about 1100 after taxes and stuff. I need to buy a ticket to Japan. 800 away from that... Need to eat, transportation, all that... So I have no money, at all. And, once I get to Japan, I need to live, which costs, and I have nothing, then I need to somehow buy some ticket to China, with no money. Did I mention I need to go to Cali to apply for a Chinese Visa? More money. I'm fucked, with no bright light in sight it seems. Hate that everything comes down to money, but I don't have it, and I don't have the ability to grease the wheels that need to be greased without it.
So, yeah, that's my life. I don't know what I'm going to do this month at all... Christmas season too! Sorry family, neices and nephews, can't even afford a dollar store toy for ya. Much less anything for friends. Fuck.
Right, so... I'm not around at the moment. I'd love to be. And I will be as I can. I'm trying to keep up on threads, but it's not easy only having intermittent access to the net. I suppose I could hop over to the local library for the site at least, but they kill cookies constantly, so trying to post would be near impossible, if not completely. I'll do what I can.
Right, so, on the subject of my fiancee, I looked up some info on the whole getting married thing. Looks like the Chinese government basically wants us to get married in China, and I have to bring pretty much every piece of legal papers I've ever recieved in order to show different things. And I have to win over her parents, since apparently, a signature on some paper by both her parents is a requirement for marriage. Adult? Meh, like that matters. Great, hope I make a good impression. Then, after that, I have to apply for a spousal visa for her. Fine and all, this is all procedural, but the whole thing, from start to finish, could take up to 2 months, just depending on how quickly everything gets processed. How the FUCK am I supposed to live in China for 2 months? I don't have any money to speak of, which is something I'll get to in a minute. I know it's cheaper than the US, but 2 months? Where am I supposed to stay? Better make a REAL good impression on those parents.
So, I'm still living at home with my mother. Only the house has no water. And no electricity. Hasn't for over 2 weeks. Basically, she got herself fired from her teaching job after not taking a requested drug test (as well she shouldn't have, she would have come up positive, I'm sure), and hasn't bothered looking for a new job over the past few months. So her savings, once rather hefty, has gone to nothing. Not a cent. She's barely scraping by feeding herself, the stupid dozen or so cats, and paying for cigarettes. Seems to me there are a couple thigs in that list that she can drop to save some cash, but that's neither here nor there.
So, sitting at home is a no-go. No electricity means no computer, no water means no showering. I could care less about the bathroom, I can always go when I go somewhere, that's livable. But I'm a generally cleanly type, and not being able to shower every day or other day is really getting to me. I actually freaking washed myself using the sink down at the game store I go to and help out at. Which, actually, is where I have been spending all my waking time outside of work.
So, I figured, even without electricity, sure, I can charge my laptop up every day or so and go on when I'm at home. I have phone service still, and while dialup may suck, it's something. That's not to be either, and I won't get into the reasons for that. Basically, I can't get online at home, and here at the game store, the computers I can use to get online don't really have net access to speak of. Rather, they do, but the standard net cafe software stuff doesn't let you do too much other than playing games. Too many kids, too much chance of bad stuff. I understand the reasoning, but damn, I'd *really* love to be able to sit on IRC for a while chatting with Navi, Frink, Shuri, Ian and crew.
So, no net, unable to sit at home, and no real cash. Why? I have two paychecks before I'm supposed to go back to Japan. And wow, I come to find out that my mom dipped into my schooling accounts (money just for school) to pay bills so she can sit on her ass longer without a job. So *that* may be in jeopardy as well. How the heck am I supposed to pln a marriage with someone if I'm not in the same country? Damn it! So, two paychecks. Figuring I'll be able to make about 1100 after taxes and stuff. I need to buy a ticket to Japan. 800 away from that... Need to eat, transportation, all that... So I have no money, at all. And, once I get to Japan, I need to live, which costs, and I have nothing, then I need to somehow buy some ticket to China, with no money. Did I mention I need to go to Cali to apply for a Chinese Visa? More money. I'm fucked, with no bright light in sight it seems. Hate that everything comes down to money, but I don't have it, and I don't have the ability to grease the wheels that need to be greased without it.
So, yeah, that's my life. I don't know what I'm going to do this month at all... Christmas season too! Sorry family, neices and nephews, can't even afford a dollar store toy for ya. Much less anything for friends. Fuck.
Right, so... I'm not around at the moment. I'd love to be. And I will be as I can. I'm trying to keep up on threads, but it's not easy only having intermittent access to the net. I suppose I could hop over to the local library for the site at least, but they kill cookies constantly, so trying to post would be near impossible, if not completely. I'll do what I can.