Something that's been bothering me

[TheOneHero]

First off, a quick back story.

About a month after I moved here, I met a girl at my church. I didn't give much thought to her until a few months ago. We started talking on the phone/online/whenever we saw eachother.

Found out that we had loads in common, but just as many differences, which, we're happily working out. http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

I thought it'd be ok if I invited her to come over and watch a movie.

Well, I made her laugh and got a wiff of bad breath. I figured she had eaten without getting a chance to brush before she came over. (We had her come over like at 6:30 p.m.)

So I invite her over again and again. Both times she had bad breath. Though I noticed, she has really white teeth. But her tounge isn't that nifty red. =/ So I'm guessing she doesn't brush it.

My thoughts were confirmed last night, when I took her to see a movie for her birthday.

The thing is, I want to talk to her about her bad breath. Remind her she should brush her tounge and the roof of her mouth. (Usually the places that cause bad breath.)

But I'm worried that I might offend her or how I'd go about telling her.

"Hey, you got bad breath, go brush your tounge." Just doesn't seem to work. =/

Any help on what to do/how to do it would be appreciated.

[InfinityXXX]

Ermm...thats really tough. Maybe, if yall kiss, you should pop a tic tac in her mouth but then that might piss her off with "What! Your trying to be funny!?"

I would just gently, in my most kindest way, tell it to her. Smile when you say it and look at her real passionately.


Edit: errmm....Not passionately but in a caring yet kind way


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[HUcastShinobi]

Ouch, that sounds rough... I've been forced to tell some of my friends that they arent ugly at times because they dont like themselves, so they end up hating how they look. Its like a chain reaction, but the one whos going through it doesnt realize it. Its kinda sad.

But, it sounds like a sticky situation. Maybe a: "I really want to talk to you about something" sort of thing might work?

[Sayara]

On 2005-07-09 09:07, HUcastShinobi wrote:
Ouch, that sounds rough... I've been forced to tell some of my friends that they arent ugly at times because they dont like themselves, so they end up hating how they look. Its like a chain reaction, but the one whos going through it doesnt realize it. Its kinda sad.

But, it sounds like a sticky situation. Maybe a: "I really want to talk to you about something" sort of thing might work?


Confused are we Nya.
Toh has to tell someone that there IS something wrong, not that Toh has to stop someone from feeling as such.

And in for your case Toh, as nicely as possible could do the trick. Sadly, it depends on the girl as well, (is she defensive?) they'll take it, or be offended.

How the ol cookie crubmles.

[trypticon]

I wouldn't say anything. Bad breath comes and goes. You've just been unlucky enough to notice it at the times it was there.

Perhaps if you didn't position yourself so closely to her face you'd be fine?

Saying anything about it would be remarkably stupid if you want to keep her as a friend with perhaps more status.



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[Alielle]

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[RoninJoku]

^lol I like that idea... Hmm... I'm sure... If you tried... You could fish up an episode of a sitcom or a comedian or something with this topic... Then kinda... put it on in the background... And then she'll watch it and think "hey? Does my breath stink cuz I don't brush my tongue?"... Or... Perhaps... She might not even notice! =D


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[rena-ko]

present her spearmint chewinggum whenever you two meet.

[Jive18]

On 2005-07-09 14:18, rena-ko wrote:
present her spearmint chewinggum whenever you two meet.



I like Rena's idea. Most people (I think) usually accept gum of some sort when it's offered to them. Well, all my friends do anyway http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif.

[Jett_Kakashi]

On 2005-07-09 15:49, Jive18 wrote:


On 2005-07-09 14:18, rena-ko wrote:
present her spearmint chewinggum whenever you two meet.



I like Rena's idea. Most people (I think) usually accept gum of some sort when it's offered to them. Well, all my friends do anyway http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif.



She/he/it also took the words out of my mouth. I say either Big Red or Dentyne Ice.

[HAYABUSA-FMW-]

Listerene Pocket packs?

Those breath strips based on the Listerene mouthwash?

But gum first of course, but have both readily availible in pocket!

I've seen plenty of people offer these mouthwash strips. With or without the intent of covering up bad breath, so its not rude at all.

Just don't over-exert yourself by making it obvious you switched stickers or something on the packaging(to make the Listerene packs like a gum/candy wrapper). http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_razz.gif

[TheOneHero]

Actually, I did offer her a Pocket Strip. (which she accepted)

Maybe that's what I might keep doing. She's smart, and will eventually figure out her breath smells.

[Django]

What I do is take the pack of mints or gum out of my pocket, take one myself while they're looking, then glance over at them, "Mint?" In that "I'm being polite because I'm eating this in front of you" way.

[HAYABUSA-FMW-]

Yeah, chain effect. One person already is eating one, the others go along with it subconciously unless they are allergic or something to have to hesistate at first glance.

Anyways, its good that you got a simple barrier out of the way TOH. Make sure to keep eating the pocket strips yourself though, as Django said. Just because. http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wink.gif

It actually might not be the tongue thing anyway. Some people just have stomach/digestion problems, and or problems with breath associated with it.

So don't jump to conclusions and being close enough to smell eachother's breath? Hmm, sounds like the relationship is blooming? http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[Anubis_]

You'll just have to sit her down and talk to her very seriously..

Make sure you tell her you value your relationship together and you this isn't a big deal and you do wanna work this out.


Expect her to be mad.. cause more than likely she will..



So you have two choices.. One tell her and try and work it out, with her being mad ofcourse. Or two do nothing and just deal with it..

My honest opinion.. Tell her.. just freakin tell her.. If she takes it to hard and wants to break it off. Hey, your better off without her.. Casuse if she can't talk about matters like that you just might be better off without her.

I had a simmilar situation and I'm tellin you, just dealing withit makes it worse.. I'm serious..

Good Luck though..