Life is so unfair.

[Derek0660]

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[Saiffy]

Er...Sounds like you just want her for bragging rights too. If you still wanna be friends even "after we break up."...You make it sound like it's inevitable to happen, so why bother risking a friendship on something like that? I'm not an expert with love, but there doesn't seem to be much a problem. Niki can choose whether she wants to go out with Ben or not, she can learn a lesson, or be happy.

Or you could ask her first, and see where that goes to. In your shoes, I'd probably do nothing more or less than what you're already doing(That is, being friends)

[ABDUR101]

Ben, the cockiest person you know, and yet he's your friend. And yet, you're coming across like he's your competition.

Lets put things in perspective, take initiative, and move on.

[Scejntjynahl]

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I should go over there, kick your ass, then kick your friend's ass, and then take your girl. I'll give you something to rant about.

For $%*#s sake go ask the girl and be done with it. All she can say to you is yes or no... get a move on boy!!!!

And if you already forsee you guys breaking up, why bother? I mean really?? Even rats leave a sinking ship.

[Derek0660]

On 2005-11-17 13:58, Saiffy wrote:

Er...Sounds like you just want her for bragging rights too.



don't even joke like that.

the "it's inevitable" thing, umm, i'm only 13. I don't think we will get married.



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[ABDUR101]

On 2005-11-17 14:21, Derek0660 wrote:
don't even joke like that.

the "it's inevitable" thing, umm, i'm only 13. I don't think we will get married.


Then who cares what happens?

Life isn't fair, you're right. But there are much worse things in the world to worry about. Obviously not for you, because you're 13.

Scen, go kick his ass, his friends ass, and get the girl.

...oh wait..might be illegal. Scen, sorry, you can't pass for being 15. =[

[Derek0660]

On 2005-11-17 14:34, ABDUR101 wrote:

Then who cares what happens?



I get to have a social life, too, you know.

[Scejntjynahl]

On 2005-11-17 14:40, Derek0660 wrote:


On 2005-11-17 14:34, ABDUR101 wrote:

Then who cares what happens?



I get to have a social life, too, you know.



To have a social life is to have a purpose. It is how you interact with others. How you fit withing a niche in the social stratification you call life.

You just admitted there is no "purpose" in that relationship... so what, just do it for the sake of doing it?

And this isn't about a "social" life, this is about your "life" and the implication of it while other people may be in it. If you are been shortsighted in your own goals . . . who cares what you do then?

You are worrying about a nonexistant future to begin with. Im sure you have the capacity to spend your time more wisely in some other venture that does have a purpose. Start with yourself first, then move onto others.



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[Derek0660]

You just admitted there is no "purpose" in that relationship... so what, just do it for the sake of doing it?

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I wanted to try it. If it doesn't work out then so be it. The reason I haven't asked her is because I am afraid of a harsh breakup and losing our friendship.

[Dangerous55]

19 year old relationshop advice won't help you, sooo I won't try. Just knock the kids teeth out though that will solve everything. Seriously, in HS it will, do it.

[EJ]

A 21 year old advice probably won't help but if you like her ask her out already. I'm friends with this girl and I like her and asked her out the worst thing that happened that she said she was too busy with school but the ironic thing is we are in the same school. >.>

Anyway take the chance already you are only 13 so the worst thing is she says no or she only wants to be friends.

[tbmes11]

Here is some advise from a 28 year old guy.

I say go play some basketball or football with some friends and forget about the girl. No disrepect but I think it is just puppy love you are experiencing if you have to think so much about what to do and how ask us for opinion on a message board.

[Derek0660]

Thanks for the help you guys. I'm going to ask her out probably never if I keep this up.




if you have to think so much about what to do and how ask us for opinion on a message board



so true http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_frown.gif
I am overthinking it. I just need to go do it.


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[digigram]

your 13.. go skateboard. Stop worrying about all that love bullshit for now.. because love (if it can even exist in high school), will more often than not, totally fall apart.

Go enjoy being 13, you'll lose those years if you get stuck thinking about girls that most likely don't give a shit about anything but status.

[navci]

Life isn't unfair because can't make your up your mind about situations?

edit: Well, this is more what I am trying to say anyway.

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[Derek0660]

On 2005-11-18 16:35, navinator wrote:
Life isn't unfair because you can't decide whether to ask a girl out or not. >.>



That's not what the original post was about.

[Saiffy]

On 2005-11-18 16:45, Derek0660 wrote:


On 2005-11-18 16:35, navinator wrote:
Life isn't unfair because you can't decide whether to ask a girl out or not. >.>



That's not what the original post was about.



Life is so unfair.

[Derek0660]

On 2005-11-18 16:55, Saiffy wrote:


On 2005-11-18 16:45, Derek0660 wrote:


On 2005-11-18 16:35, navinator wrote:
Life isn't unfair because you can't decide whether to ask a girl out or not. >.>



That's not what the original post was about.



Life is so unfair.

Huh?

[Skorpius]

Wait until you're older before you start thinking about girls.

If you wonder why, it only proves my point.

[chaos89]

On 2005-11-17 14:21, Derek0660 wrote:


On 2005-11-17 13:58, Saiffy wrote:

Er...Sounds like you just want her for bragging rights too.



don't even joke like that.

the "it's inevitable" thing, umm, i'm only 13. I don't think we will get married.

than in your profile wu put u were born in 1969?!


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[Derek0660]

On 2005-11-18 19:27, chaos89 wrote:

than in your profile wu put u were born in 1969?!



There is no 1992 option so I just put that.

[PIT]

what can i tell you? she's propably not mature enaugh for relationships, so you can just ask her about it, or just kcock it out and go on a beer. if anyone asks - i've been drinking in his age, maybe that's just becouse i'm from poland http://pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_biggrin.gif

[Allos]

On 2005-11-18 13:57, digigram wrote:
your 13.. go skateboard. Stop worrying about all that love bullshit for now.. because love (if it can even exist in high school), will more often than not, totally fall apart.

Go enjoy being 13, you'll lose those years if you get stuck thinking about girls that most likely don't give a shit about anything but status.





Couldn't have said it better myself. You'll have a lot more shit to worry about in a few years, so just enjoy your free life now.

[LoveAndLunacy]

Dude when you that age just go and mess about doing something fun, when you get bit older get around with girls then later start to worry bout stuff like that.
Cecil liceC

[Rion772]

I'm almost 15, I've been in your shoes. It's not fun at all, your best choice is to spend time with her, let her get to know you, don't act shy around her like don't let yourself look nervous. If being around a girl you like that much makes you nervous just picture her as a girl you could easily or have easily talked to in the past.

Also don't make it seem like you're the freaky stalker type of kid, give her space and at the same time talk to her a lot. Don't look around online for her screen name if she has one. Talk to her at her locker, talk to her in class if you can, act like you don't care much too but don't make it look like your heartless. If you can do this all at the same time and pull it off, you're pretty much going to have a much better chance than your competition. Also when it gets to the right time ask her to go to the movies, wait till near the end of the movie to try a kiss or something if she doesn't try first. You'll know when it's the right time when she always seems happy around you, wears your hoody (sweatshirt), tries to talk to you, and can get into a serious conversation with you. DO NOT TELL HER YOUR PROBLEMS OUTSIDE OF SCHOOL! Like don't be like "Ugh I hate my life, everyone sucks".

Try to pull it off like your usually having a good day. I didn't take the fact that you're already freind into consideration until now so just start off with what I said from wherever your currently at.

Good luck.

[Derek0660]

On 2005-11-21 19:08, Rion772 wrote:

I'm almost 15, I've been in your shoes. It's not fun at all, your best choice is to spend time with her, let her get to know you, don't act shy around her like don't let yourself look nervous.







who I've been friends with for quite some time now



btw, your advice sounds very professional

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