Now YOU want sympathy?

[Uncle_bob]

You fucked up MY relationship with someone and now you want sympathy when you screw up with your own relationship?

Years and years ago Uncle had a great girlfriend. Things were great and I was the happiest I had ever been in my life. Srsly. But of course my crazy grandparents did not approve of her because she wasn't a dress-wearing mega-christian like them. And my brother often sided with them when they would harrass me about her. Eventually this led up to me not being allowed to see her, and obviously the relationship died. But despite their efforts, we're still best friends today. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

But I'm still bitter and angry about what my family did to me. Very bitter. And last night my brother calls me just as I was about to go to bed. He's crying and being a little emotional shit because his boyfriend broke up with him and his computer is fucked up from downloading God knows how many GB of porno. And he's whining about how hurt he is, blah blah. He asks me if he can use my computer, and he whines more when I say no. (He was at my house, and I was out of town)

He's crying and hinting at wanting sympathy from ME because his own relationship went bad. Then he also said I wouldn't know how it would feel when someone breaks up with you. Dear readers, what the fuck? The little shit is the one that helped ruin my relationship years ago, and then he wants sympathy and help from me? No, fuck you.

My family blows. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

[TheyCallMeJoe]

That whole other religious debate in Rants has left me steamed...and hearing this didn't help:

But of course my crazy grandparents did not approve of her because she wasn't a dress-wearing mega-christian like them.
I have a strong desire to thrust my head through the monitor. Forgive me if I speak foul of your family, but ignorant, shortsighted, bull like that really makes my day. You have every right to be angry with your family....I am http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif. If they can't accept it, they need to back the fux off, because you have the right of way.


He's crying and being a little emotional because his boyfriend broke up with him
Ahem...

[CherryLunar]

I understand that whole relationship bit very very clearly...

Offer you bro a shoulder to cry on for a little. Definately dont let him use your computer. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

[Uncle_bob]

On 2006-07-16 13:10, TheyCallMeJoe wrote:

He's crying and being a little emotional because his boyfriend broke up with him
Ahem...



I'm going to assume the ahem is because of the boyfriend part. Despite being excessively religious, they're not giving my brother much, if any, harrassment for being a homosexual. They know about his boyfriend too, and they don't really make a big deal. They occasionally say "he's compromising his salvation" and things like that, but nothing near the hell I endured from them. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif


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[Rainbowlemon]

Umcle should hook back with the amazing girl and wave it front of his grandparents' faces.

[Jehosaphaty]

Gah, third person. Amazing girl is off-limits or is it possible you two could date again?

[ABDUR101]

Whats the age difference between your brother and yourself? Which is older? As well, maybe the reason he's allowed to be who he is, is because he stood up for himself to the point that no one swayed him, your relationship ended, you gave in, but he's still who he is and he's made them deal with it.

[Solstis]

They've probably cooled off over the years.

Sucks that you had to deal with their wrath earlier, though.

Eh, but, still, rack up some serious points and be nice to your bro. Think of it as a form of manipulation. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[DizzyDi]

Family is family no matter how fucked up they are or how bad they've done you in the past, you only get one of them. Your brother obviously needs someone to be there for him and the fact that he called you shows that you he may love you as a brother. I'm not one to hold a grudge, so if it was me I'd be there for your bro.

[Daikarin]

Your grandparents and brother don't know the girl as you do - They're the ones who can't trust your judgement. And as for your brother, I would advise not to fight fire with fire. Regardless, give him a light "I've been in your place, and didn't get support out of you" punch, just to make him aware.

[Uncle_bob]

Umcle should hook back with the amazing girl and wave it front of his grandparents' faces.

Hawhaw. Well, Umkel is content with the friendship he has with her. Though I should wave THAT in their faces too. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif


Gah, third person. Amazing girl is off-limits or is it possible you two could date again?

See above.


Whats the age difference between your brother and yourself? Which is older? As well, maybe the reason he's allowed to be who he is, is because he stood up for himself to the point that no one swayed him, your relationship ended, you gave in, but he's still who he is and he's made them deal with it.

Brother is older by 6 years. The funny thing is that he's the more childish and irresponsible one. He doesn't clean up after himself or take care of the things he needs to get done, and so on.. And as far as I know, he never really had to "stand up" for himself as they never harrassed him to the degree that they harrassed me. When I did stand up for myself I was threatened with being kicked out of the house and that sort of thing.


They've probably cooled off over the years.

Sucks that you had to deal with their wrath earlier, though.

Eh, but, still, rack up some serious points and be nice to your bro. Think of it as a form of manipulation.

They haven't cooled off any. If anything..they've gotten worse over the years. Kuda and Sef know what I mean. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif


Family is family no matter how fucked up they are or how bad they've done you in the past, you only get one of them. Your brother obviously needs someone to be there for him and the fact that he called you shows that you he may love you as a brother. I'm not one to hold a grudge, so if it was me I'd be there for your bro.

Yes, family is still family. I'm still not that fond of them; friends are more reliable. And if my brother needs someone to be there for him, he's looking in the wrong place.


Your grandparents and brother don't know the girl as you do - They're the ones who can't trust your judgement. And as for your brother, I would advise not to fight fire with fire. Regardless, give him a light "I've been in your place, and didn't get support out of you" punch, just to make him aware.

A light punch? More like wailing on him instead.

[Lord_Kratos]

Do what you mthink is necessary. I would disown my family but thats me!

[Abaru-FP]

Thats pretty twisted. If I was in your shoes, I'd make him aware that he was partly to blame for inflicting the same pain he feels on his own brother not long ago. Then explain to him that when he was ready to concider that he is not the only human being wonderful enough to have feelings you will be there to lend a more understanding ear.

Till then though, he needs to do some thinking by his lonesome self.

[Asuke]

I think that i must be the luckiest man on earth then. Aside from my awesome, sexy girlfriend (that loves to get high with me), I have 3 brothers that are my BESTFRIENDS! Im only 22 and i have 2 older and one younger. And i cant say enough how close we all are. There is nothing, NOTHING that could seperate us.

[Uncle_bob]

On 2006-07-19 22:42, Asuke wrote:
I think that i must be the luckiest man on earth then. Aside from my awesome, sexy girlfriend (that loves to get high with me), I have 3 brothers that are my BESTFRIENDS! Im only 22 and i have 2 older and one younger. And i cant say enough how close we all are. There is nothing, NOTHING that could seperate us.



...Orly?

[zwandude15]

My two cents:

1) The whole; christian, being okay with your brother, but not someone who isn't family thing, sux major nut dude.

2) Stating the obvious, let him feel the pain. Shove in his face the crap he put you through with your issue. I can't stress enough how vital this seems in your case.

You're not dumb, and you've got it down for the most part. http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wink.gif

[Jive18]

On 2006-07-19 23:51, Uncle_bob wrote:


On 2006-07-19 22:42, Asuke wrote:
I think that i must be the luckiest man on earth then. Aside from my awesome, sexy girlfriend (that loves to get high with me), I have 3 brothers that are my BESTFRIENDS! Im only 22 and i have 2 older and one younger. And i cant say enough how close we all are. There is nothing, NOTHING that could seperate us.



...Orly?



Yah rly. Doesn't everyone live in NeverNeverLand?

[Eihwaz]

Man, your family does blow! http://www.pso-world.com/images/phpbb/icons/smiles/icon_wacko.gif

I mean, if your grandparents are the standard very religious grandparents, I'd think they'd accept a non-"dress-wearing mega-christian" on the grounds that she is, in fact, a girl. On the other hand, I wouldn't think they'd accept your brother having a boyfriend. Freaky. o_O;

Well, I don't really know what to say. Try to enjoy your friendship with your lady friend, and be thankful that you guys can still hang out.